Identity Therapy: A Roadmap to Your Authentic Self

In life, there are trials and obstacles that are not only mentally or emotionally challenging, but sometimes also leave a deep mark on our identity. The collective effects could lead to questioning or contemplation about values, beliefs or even asking, “What do I know to be true about myself?” or “Who do I want to be?”. At times, we may not be honest with ourselves or others about our identity due to fear of rejection, lack of acceptance, confusion or social expectations. There are multiple ways to handle and take on these struggles, however there may be one particular best way that applies to each specific individual. Therapy could be a resource to help when feeling lost, or experiencing a sense of disconnection with oneself. It is my role as a clinician to identify the positive internal attributes within each client to assist them in reconnecting with and embracing their authentic self. 

A young man in a greenhouse gazes thoughtfully into a circular mirror, capturing a moment of self-reflection.

It can be overwhelming or even scary to address self-exploration alone. Looking into identity could include exploring the roles of age, family background, gender, occupation, friends, ethnicity, beliefs, sexual orientation and more. People have intersectional identities and it is essential to hold space for how they interconnect and shape someone's power in society. This work also involves processing experiences that have shaped the present self. Working on identity could mean diving deeper into ethical dilemmas, and exploring how aspects of thoughts, emotions and behaviors are held. It could also mean embracing newer aspects of the core self, and what it would be like to take a step away from a former comfort zone. At times, looking at ourselves can be challenging and even stressful due to how we perceive ourselves.  People are sometimes their own worst critic. To change this negative self-talk, I support my clients to learn and practice a growth mindset through identity therapy. When it is appropriate, I have my clients practice reflecting on questions such as “What would it be like if the mirror version of you supported, encouraged and understood yourself?”

Identity work is a lifelong journey. It is an adventure to become comfortable with yourself and embrace your strengths, blind spots, concerns and fears. There is no specific manual on how to be your unique self, however each person has their own way to be authentic and the potential to achieve personal growth in their lives. The most important relationship you will have is your relationship with yourself. Therapy is a place to help embrace yourself; it is an opportunity to learn about and develop yourself in a non-judgmental and safe place. Not only could therapy help with unfolding your truth, it could be a place to build a strong foundation of who you are by encompassing your passions, interests, capabilities and personality. Every human deserves private space to explore and process their identity. Identity-focused therapy can help you to become more self-accepting and self-compassionate, grow your mindset, and lead to learning skills towards more fulfillment in life. 

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